They say if you want to know what your character defects are, fall in love. I will add to that, have your mother’s husband need lots of care, be far away.
Here’s a character defect I don’t talk a lot about, because who would I talk to? Being an only child has made me fearful, envious, lonely. No one shared my growing up experience, and no one understands the way this feels now.
Don't Drink and Don't Die 
Except possibly, someone who has the same, or very similar, experience