Nor is the quest for security always expressed in terms of money. How frequently we see a frightened human being determined to depend completely upon a stronger person for guidance and protection. This weak one, failing to meet life’s responsibilities with his own resources, never grows up. Disillusionment and helplessness are his lot. In time all his protectors either flee or die, and he is once more left alone and afraid.
We have also seen men and women who go power-mad, who devote themselves to attempting to rule their fellows. These people often throw in the winds every chance for legitimate security and a happy family life. Whenever a human being becomes a battleground for the instincts, there can be no peace.
Again, I hope I am someone who has escaped these extremes, but at a lower level all these character defects are alive in me. I am frequently frightened, and I love to depend on someone else when that person will let me! I did, however (and with lots and lots of help) live on my own with two young children. I kept them alive and fairly well, and I held down a job I did reasonably well at.
And while I like to think of myself as this passive, peaceful, easy-going person, I know that I am very strong-willed and quite opinionated. So while in general I may fit the label “quiet,” that by no means translates to “no attempt to rule their fellows.” I attempt it frequently, and I have no plans to stop!
To elaborate, I don’t really want to rule my fellows, but I want to influence them heavily in terms of, for example, gun control, election reform, the right to choose, health care for everyone, and clean water. To name a few. My desire to influence these things has, I hope, taken on more meaning and more actual work, in a healthy way, these past 2.5 years. I’ll also get triggered at work when people do things like use their phones when they shouldn’t or suggest that we wear ID badges.
So the battle of the instincts goes on. However, these days, and for a long time now, drugging myself does not appear as a viable nor an ideal solution.