Most of the spirit of this comes under accepting the things I cannot change. Mostly, I cannot change other people, and so I need to detach and let them make their own mistakes being, if I can, a power of example. That’s harder with people I’m responsible for, say my children, when they were younger, or people I supervise. In general, though, I have to remember that I’m not the boss of everything, and if I was the boss of everything, we’d quickly be in big, big trouble.
Sometimes in sobriety people have to really detach from loved-ones who might threaten their sobriety. I haven’t been through that, and I’m not sure what I’d do. The final truism I always cling to is that if I drink, I can’t help anyone in anyway. Rather, I will endanger them. So if it came down to that, I hope I’d choose to detach rather than drink.