With principles before personalitys and our tradition nine can a group ask a person to leave a meeting and not come back?
As with all of this blog, these are my opinions only. I do not represent or speak for AA.
It’s my understanding that a group can do whatever a group wants to do.
In my experience, this is happily an extremely rare occurrence. Most disruptive people in AA settle down or leave, or move around to other groups. I’ve written before that AA is not a safe place. Though I’ve always felt safe there, crimes can and do happen around meetings and between the people of AA. Again, I’d say, they are rare.
Our literature warns us that if we ask a person to leave AA, we may be sentencing that person to death. No one deserves that, no matter what. We’re not asking people to leave AA, though, just usually our particular group. If a person his being continually disruptive, frightening, or dangerous, I do think that’s OK for the group to ask that person to leave and not come back.
Dana brings Tradition Nine into it, but the leaders of the group would have no special authority here, and the groups I’ve known would use a “group conscience” or vote about things like this. I’m sure something so serious would only happen after many other things have been tried and have failed. I also think a person should be asked not to come back until he or she has changed the troubling behavior, not never.
I’m sorry for any group that is going through this kind of terrible situation. I’m sorry for any person who might be asked to leave AA. The only thing I’m sure about here is that we should all keep trying. Behavior that makes groups consider asking someone to leave is probably not sober behavior, or behavior that is compatible with sobriety. Someone who can’t get along with people in AA will probably have a very difficult time elsewhere and probably needs serious treatment for mental illness.