Comments for Don't Drink and Don't Die

Comment on What Keeps You from Drinking? by Doraemon

Doraemon — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 22:43:05 +0000

I know what you’re talking about. Even though I’m only sober since last year’s July, I know the feeling you’re trying to explain. Since I started my recovery until today, I have been very happy to find out that sobriety is quite an easy condition to maintain. But maybe, just maybe, it’s also because my partner lives with me and he’s been there by my side all these days.
I have thought about this many times: what would happen if I spent one day alone? A very tough one to answer.
When I put myself that question I just end by thinking that the pills (daily Antabus) keep me away from danger. But I can’t deny it: pills will stay in my way for a short time. My doctor will take them away soon. So my fear, the deepest and scariest one of my thoughts, is what will happen then?
I don’t find the answer. I can’t. It’s too scary. The psychologists that follow my evolution just try to keep my thoughts day by day. They tell me to not anticipate things. But the thought comes and goes from time to time.
Sure enough I’m scared of the day that I’m not “contained” by the pills. I’m scared of the day that I must sleep alone.
I don’t know what will happen. I can’t swear that I won’t fail.
It’s scary. Really. It makes me feel so alone.
Good luck in your recovery!

Comment on We are not fighting it, neither are we avoiding temptation. by louisey

louisey — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 08:55:41 +0000

Hi Lydia — it is page 84 in one copy but of course it depends on the edition.

xxMary LA

Comment on AA Discussion Meeting Topics (and slogans) by Jen B.

Jen B. — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:07:48 +0000

Thanks for your help. I am putting together a meeting for women based on our common solution. These idease will be useful!

Comment on Those of Us Who Have Come to Make Regular Use of Prayer (Step Eleven continued) by Irish Friend of Bill

Irish Friend of Bill — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 09:02:37 +0000

Thanks Lydia. i feel the same if the truth be known. I am incapable of idealism these days hehe

completely off topic, heres something..

here’s a thing i found that you may ? like.
ignore it if you want, that’s fine, but i just thought id mention it just in case..

Its an anti-discrimination petition for Buddhist nuns..if you feel so inclined If not, that’s ok too.

http://new.ipetitions.com/petition/bhikkhuni-ordination/

You can remain anonymous online, ie not show your name.

Being a girlee I hate to see any kind of unfairness toward women if they are just as capable as men, and some recent shenanigans in an Australian monastery where a ‘rebel monk’ went against the wishes of his superiors and fully ordained 3 nuns, and was swiftly ‘excommunicated’, have brought this matter to a head, thereby creating a !! perfect opportunity to confront the elephant in the room regarding ‘proper’ female ordination.
So this long overdue issue has the potential to be addressed properly, as those ’superiors’ are going to have to issue a statement and explanation as to the events that led up to the excommunication.
Its an interesting chapter, and there is potential for the discriminatory exclusion of women in this tradition to be overturned, once and for all. But who knows eh. Only time will tell. No harm trying in the meantime..

Comment on AA Meetings, Meeting Formats, Kinds of Meetings by Lydia

Lydia — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 01:37:59 +0000

Hi Pete, and thanks for your question. I can only answer from my experience with AA, not with groups that are patterned after AA. There are very few rules in AA, and meeting formats vary a lot. Generally two or more people who are together for the purpose of sobriety can call themselves an AA meeting. After you gain experience, if you don’t like the meeting formats available to you, begin your own. AA works very well! Good luck to you.

Comment on AA Meetings, Meeting Formats, Kinds of Meetings by Pete

Pete — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:49:21 +0000

Hello,
I am aware of fact that first step program was AA program. Thats why here I am looking for answers.I am almost 40 & I live in Europe. Here another 12 step community is growing – Anonymous Sexoholic. I contacted in this case Sa but without satysfying answer. Is the a tradition to split a meeting into 2 parts. In first only 30 days sober people can talk, in 2nd part the rest…. or idea of meeting just for people who have a sponsor , are sober, working a steps. Rest – can participate but cannot speak? is it OK with tradition? Doest helping in recovery? Our regular format was: welcoming, steps , than literature and we are exchanging knowledge. Now in this young community other ideas. I know that AA is almost 70 years “old”. have you every practise that? Thanks in advance for opinion

Comment on Fear of People (promises) by louisey

louisey — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 06:37:10 +0000

I’m with you on the gun-carrying strangers who see guns as a solution to fear. Loved this post.

Mary LA

Comment on Terence, This is Stupid Stuff! (literature as a tool) by Dave Mount

Dave Mount — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 22:05:52 +0000

Thanks so much for this! The poem’s one of my all-time favorites. I found your analysis while searching for an overview to share with a student in my community-college writing class. She’d written an essay on why she writes depressing poetry, and I decided she just had to read “Terence.” Thanks to you, she may also understand it! It certainly took me a few years. It’s still sinking in . . .

Comment on The Menopause Chronicles by aitch

aitch — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 03:11:48 +0000

This has been a similar pattern for me for only three months now. I find it helpful to read your blog. I’m 44 in Dec so I’m fairly sure the whole “change” is beginning. The idea of surrendering to the docs does not sit well with me although I know it is a neccessary evil. To a large extent, I really hope I address this time like I did with the birth of my son. The doc didn’t come in the room. Love the blog.

Aitch

Comment on Gratitude List by aitch

aitch — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 02:49:51 +0000

Nice List:)