http://lydiacharlotte.wordpress.com/2008/02/17/lying-in-meetings/ how to become an oldtimer in AA Fri, 04 Jul 2008 13:56:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU http://lydiacharlotte.wordpress.com/2008/02/17/lying-in-meetings/#comment-13 carolemaia Tue, 19 Feb 2008 00:56:54 +0000 http://lydiacharlotte.wordpress.com/?p=12#comment-13 Yeah, so this situation has really bothered me since it happened. On the one hand I feel like, "how could he lie?" and on the other hand I wonder if I just have missed something in my google search. What if I got the dates wrong or something like that? And then I remember that he did actually name the names and provide the dates, and I remember that I made a mental note of it then; so I know I don't have all the facts wrong. But still, what if he was telling the truth? I don't see how it could all be true... So this has bothered me and I almost brought it up at a meeting last night, but (surprise, surprise) I had the most time and wasn't sure that anyone else would have any insight into the issue. I was also thinking that I would go to the meeting where the guy goes, where he says his sponsor goes, to try to get a better feel for him and his story. Ok, but ALL of THIS makes me wonder why I am so bothered by it..... If he was lying, I feel sorry for him. When I listened to all that he said he had possessed and done, I thought to myself, "Wow! That's beyond my wildest dreams." And when it got to be my turn to share, I told him about how early in my sobriety I would hear people say that their lives today are "beyond their wildest dreams" of what would have been possible. I told him I didn't get it then, but that I'm experiencing it now, and I told him that I hope he sticks around long enough to have it happen for him. So, why am I so bothered by it? Yeah, so this situation has really bothered me since it happened. On the one hand I feel like, “how could he lie?” and on the other hand I wonder if I just have missed something in my google search. What if I got the dates wrong or something like that? And then I remember that he did actually name the names and provide the dates, and I remember that I made a mental note of it then; so I know I don’t have all the facts wrong. But still, what if he was telling the truth? I don’t see how it could all be true…
So this has bothered me and I almost brought it up at a meeting last night, but (surprise, surprise) I had the most time and wasn’t sure that anyone else would have any insight into the issue. I was also thinking that I would go to the meeting where the guy goes, where he says his sponsor goes, to try to get a better feel for him and his story.
Ok, but ALL of THIS makes me wonder why I am so bothered by it….. If he was lying, I feel sorry for him. When I listened to all that he said he had possessed and done, I thought to myself, “Wow! That’s beyond my wildest dreams.” And when it got to be my turn to share, I told him about how early in my sobriety I would hear people say that their lives today are “beyond their wildest dreams” of what would have been possible. I told him I didn’t get it then, but that I’m experiencing it now, and I told him that I hope he sticks around long enough to have it happen for him.
So, why am I so bothered by it?

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